what kind of mother would I be

What would people think of a women who didn't fight for her child?

I just finished watching “My Sister’s Keeper.” (as if I don't have enough to cry about already...)  At one point, the mother of a daughter with cancer says "What kind of mom would I be if I didn't fight for my child?" (or something similar, or maybe her sister says it to her, but you get the point).

This really struck a chord with me. What kind of mother would I be if I didn't fight for my child. The only difference is that my child isn't here yet. Maybe that's why non-infertiles have such a difficult time understanding the struggle we infertiles have, we are all fighting for our children, who aren't here yet.

So I've been fighting for my child for over 11 years, and people still don't understand. How can we change this? How can we help people understand infertility and it's side effects. I have been expected to just go one with my life as if nothing is happening to me.  I am expected to smile, and be happy that I have my health. But the people who expect that of me, all have children. They don't get it. Would a mother who lost her child be expected to smile and get on with her life and be happy she has her health and act as if nothing happened? I think not.